Attachment therapy for the ways connection feels hard
I work with people whose relationships, closeness, or trust feel strained in ways that are hard to change on their own. You can talk about the patterns you notice without having to explain yourself perfectly.
What people bring me
People often come in because relationships feel confusing, intense, or hard to trust. They may pull close and then pull away, worry about being too much, or feel hurt when others do not respond the way they hoped. Some notice the same conflict keeps showing up with partners, family, or friends. Others feel lonely even when they are around people they care about.
- I never know how much to trust people.
- I get scared when someone gets too close.
- I keep having the same fight in different relationships.
- I feel lonely even when I am not alone.
We look at the patterns that show up in connection, not just the arguments.
How I work with it
I pay attention to how trust, distance, worry, and closeness show up in real relationships and in the room with me. The work may include looking at old experiences that still shape how you expect people to respond. For some people, this is mainly individual work; for others, it may involve a couple or family depending on what is being brought in. I keep the focus on what you notice, feel, and do when connection feels unsafe or uncertain.
- Client-Centered Therapy
- This gives room to notice your relationship patterns without being shamed for them. I stay with your experience and let the conversation unfold at a pace that feels manageable.
- EMDR
- When attachment wounds are tied to past experiences, EMDR may be part of the work. I bring it in only when it fits what we are trying to understand and hold.
What the first sessions look like
The first sessions are about understanding what happens for you in relationships and what it feels like when connection starts to go off track. You do not need to have the pattern named before we begin.
Questions people ask
Is attachment therapy only for romantic relationships?
No. It can include partners, family, and other important connections. We look at the relationships where closeness and trust feel hardest.
What if I always pull away when people get close?
That is something we can talk about without judgment. We would look at what happens inside you when closeness starts to feel risky.
Can this help if I keep having the same relationship problems?
That pattern is often part of the work. We pay attention to what repeats and what it seems to protect you from.
Do you have to talk about my childhood?
Not right away. If earlier experiences are connected to what is happening now, we may talk about them when it feels useful and not before.
About Trilogy Counseling
I work with women and teens age 14 and older for individual counseling. My areas of focus include anxiety, trauma, attachment, life transitions, self esteem, divorce recovery, domestic violence, teen dating violence, and relationship concerns.
Talk it through with Samantha
Tell us what has been going on and we will take it from there.